Top 5 Regrets of the elderly

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware: 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

Easter Weekend 2011


Still going ahead with the art journalling that I wanted to keep up with this year, Here is some of the recent works.

In and effort to be less boring (is that even possible with me?) I am endeavouring to undertake a few baking projects over the easter break.

Here is the wish list:

1. The Epic Rainbow Cake

2. French Macaroons

3. Turkish Delight

4. Caramel Cheesecake

5. Greek Galaktobouriko

I started making the six layers for the Rainbow Cake last night, and made the icing this morning. It is currently in the fridge setting before I finish off the rest of the icing. I made two batches of Buttercream icing and I think I am going to be short. However, considering the amount of butters and sugar (2 blocks of butter to 4.5 cups sugar!) For the sake of health,. even if it looks like it needs more, I dont think I am going to make it.

And so it starts…

OK, so since the last post, I have started to reasearch and aquire a whole stack of nice pens.  By nice, I dont mean expensive, but in saying that, I have started to lash out an purchase a few of these too. So far, this one is my everyday “I love it” pen. It’s a Caran d’Ache Ecridor Silver Eclat Ball Pen.  

Unfortunatley for me, being new to all this, I did not research things like refills before I brought it, However, luckily for me it uses (as I have just found out) standard Parker Refills, which means that I have already managed to aquire some lovely gel coloured gel refills and am currently writing in bright pink!

I am sure I will get bored of this soon and revert back to “Fine – Black”, but after having a look around I have decided to check out the refills issue more in the future as I enjoy the fact that you can both easily acquire Parker Refills in nearly all ink types, nib sizes and colours. I sure plan to make the most of this!!

It’s probably not the best photo, but the pen itself is LOVELY!

It is engraved with little swirls and has crystals embeded into it. It’s a solid pen, but not too weighty. It writes well too, and it does not have any of those annoying little metal clashing sounds that some pens have when you write with them. Overall, I love it and I think it was a great investment for the likes of someone like myself.

I have discovered that I an more prone to purchase retractable pens as they normally have a clip (so that you can attach them to your diary or notebook – or in my instance to the coller of my t-shirt!), as opposed to pens with lids. I find that I eaither leave the lids laying around, hence losing them, which is a pet hate! Retractables mean no lost lids, no on and off’s, just click and it;s ready to go!